I had one of those rare parenting moments the other day. If you have raised any children or are raising some now, you the type I mean. A question that blindsides you, leaving you momentarily stunned.
My baby boy (Yes, he is 20 years old now, but he will always be my baby boy.) hit me with this gem,
“Dad, do you know anything about bondage?”
“I might know a thing or two about it.”
Hmm… OK, in for a penny, in for a pound.
“Why?”
“I’d really like to tie someone up and think I would be pretty good at it.”
Not what you would expect from someone who you swear you just taught how to ride a bicycle and throw a ball yesterday. Well, rather than direct him to my blog (https://quantumcogitation.com/2012/06/08/bondage-time-or-excuse-me-but-im-a-bit-tied-up/), I decided to have a rather frank conversation with him about sex, STD’s, HIV, you know, all the bad stuff.
“Dad, I know all of that stuff. And you know I don’t have a girlfriend right now.”
Fine. Let’s talk fetish. Which if you are a regular reader of my blog, you’d know I have a passing knowledge of the subject. (All my love to Taylor St Claire and Debi Diamond!)
“Well you’re not going to tie me up!”
“DAD!”
“Glad that’s out-of-the-way. How much research have you done? Seen anything on the internet you like?”
He wasn’t sure, so I introduced him to the subject of shibari, Japanese bondage. We did a search together and I directed him to trusted links. (That means I know the webmaster and am secure in the low virus risk.)
This is what he was needed. My son is an accomplished artist currently specializing in manga. Of course Doc Johnson has the new Black Rose line and some magnificent colored ropes for just such a purpose. http://www.docjohnson.com/bondagerope-japanese-style-purple.html
As an artist, he loves purple and all of the designs he could create using rope patterns and the various colors/textures.
“Can you get me some of these? Purple ropes and the purple silk?”
“Sure, but if you do not have a girlfriend, how are you going to use them?”
“I”ll just practice on myself.”
Shades of David Carradine!
So we a talk about safety, not tying yourself up to the point of no escape. Frankly I do not need to come home and find my naked son tied up on the couch. I might find it amusing later and fodder for endless jibes, but nothing I ever really need to see in my lifetime.
So if you doing self-bondage, always be sure you leave yourself a way to escape. Just in case your Mother or UPS comes to the door. I did have a friend who was quite fond of handcuffs. He would freeze the key in a block of ice, then leave it in a pan where he could reach it when it thawed. He used a pan because once the ice as it melted slid off the table and he had to be released by a friend.
Keep a cell phone within reach in case something like that happens. Better embarrassed than tied up for a week with no food or bathroom!
So in the end, be frank, be honest, be careful and always buy bondage supplies from Doc Johnson. (Remember? They pay me!)
And while a bit discomforting, it is great to know that your kids can come to you with any issues they need to discuss.
Quantum Cogitation 