Here is a topic that is near and dear to my heart: Orgasms. I’ve been studying them for years. Not clinically, but let’s just say that I have completed years of informal study. (Mostly my own, sadly.)
Presented for your evaluation: In the August 18, 2014 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, a study was conducted on the rate of orgasms achieved with a regular partner. The results may or may not startle you.
Men (Gay or Straight) – 75% of the time
Women (Lesbian) – 75 % of the time
Women (Straight) – 63% of the time.
So what’s the deal? Nobody knows. Although there is some very interesting data presented. The difference between straight and gay women is particularly significant. One of the study leaders implied that perhaps penetrative sex is more crucial to straight women than for gay women. Not sure how I feel about that. It seems that our perceptions of sex, what it is versus what we think it should be causes many of our problems. Everyone has an idea of the perfect sexual encounter. And if sex does not happen that way, perhaps orgasm becomes elusive.
Also, the research brings up a common complaint. There needs to be better communication between partners. Here is a quote from the study about heterosexual partners: “The most successful means of increasing satisfaction has always been increased communication and attentiveness to the partner’s responsiveness,” Lloyd said. In other words, talk and pay attention.
Well, yeah. That goes for pretty much everybody. Notice how your partner is reacting and adjust accordingly. One clue is when she says. “Oh yeah, right there!” If she says that, keep doing exactly what you are doing. Make it good. Make it epic!
Talk about sex. Experiment. It takes a lot of work to develop trust between partners. Who knows, maybe she needs some additional stimulation or perhaps a good vibrator. Now where can you find something like that? That’s right, DOC JOHNSON! Take a trip to your local sex toy emporium or go online. Doc Johnson has tons of toys, lubricants and implements of mass pleasure. Collect them all and trade them with your friends!
Now I have added a link to a website that will give you more information, but let’s end on another quote.
“Satisfaction is different from orgasm — many women can be sexually satisfied without orgasm,” Lloyd said. “We can’t infer that there are legions of unsatisfied heterosexual women because of this study. We’d have to ask them.”
If you need me, I will be out in the field conducting research…
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_147977.html
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