An interesting question was posed to me this week.
Why are cuckold films so popular?
I have no idea. However, I do know a little bit about the Hot Wife/cuckold phenomenon.
Some of you have already gone to Wikipedia to look up “Cuckold,” so I will just give the brief alleged origin of the term. You see, there is this bird called the cuckoo. Besides living in clocks, the female will lay its eggs in another birds nest so that someone else raises the offspring. This is a similar deal. Hot Wife goes out and gets knocked up by a man other than her husband so that the husband ends up raising someone else’s kid. There is often denial of sex for the cuckolded husband.
How do these people’s minds work?
Lots of answers of which all or none of may be correct.
1. The stress of sexual relations is too much for the husband. He wants his wife to be happy so he gives her permission to get the sexual satisfaction she deserves. Very selfless and giving.
2. The husband feels inadequate and grudgingly gives consent for his wife to get what he cannot provide. i.e., multiple orgasms, a large cock, a “real” man, group sex, etc.
3. The husband is unaware that his wife is getting sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
4. The husband may just get his jollies watching and doesn’t care for real sex.
5. The husband may be into humiliation and lets his dominatrix wife do as she please to torment him.
6. The wife’s sex drive may be too big for him to accommodate.
7. The husband is bi and gets off being the beta male.
8. There may be blackmail involved.
Some folks will say this is not right, but if everyone is happy with the situation, who are we to comment? If they are unhappy, well hopefully they will find some help to change their circumstances.
We need to be careful not to confuse cuckolds with swingers. A cuckold may be a swinger, but not every swinger is a cuckold. In a swinging relationship, each partner has sex with however many people they desire. In a cuckold relationship, the Hot Wife gets to have sex with however many people they desire and the cuckold is either faithful or abstinent. Sometimes they add interracial play for more humiliation. (Side note: Dr Tim does not believe that having sex with someone from a different race would denigrate anything.)
And do not confuse a Hot Wife with a Slut Wife. Remember, the Hot Wife has a husband at home who gets no action from his lawfully wedded bride. Everyone gets the Slut Wife.
A friend of mine who practices this lifestyle tells me that it is the toughest thing in the world for him, but seeing his wife’s happiness makes it all worthwhile. For years, he told me, she would cuckold him by using toys. She had him go buy different dildos, vibrators, lubes and lotions. (All Doc Johnson products!) Then she made him watch as she pleasured herself. At first, she let him masturbate while watching. After a while that stopped. They purchased a strap-on and a male chastity device. His junk was locked up and she would use the strap-on to stretch his orifices. Eventually she started meeting other men and bringing them home to fuck so he could watch. And yes, he does clean up the cream pies. Currently he has been in that chastity device for over three years. They seem very much in love.
How does Dr Tim know so much about his friends’ sex lives? I get invited to either participate or hold the camcorder. (I love holding the camcorder!) In a way, I am a documentarian of sex in America. I just don’t own any of the footage.
So why are cuckold films becoming so popular? My best guess is that more and more people are finally becoming more secure in their sexuality. Men want to fuck other men’s wives and “conquer” their husbands. Some men want to watch their wives lose themselves in orgasm at another’s hands. Some men have little to no self-respect and are self-destructive. (Not nice to make the wives a party to that!) Some men are submissive and don’t want rights, they want duties.
Some women like having multiple partners, or humiliating/hurting their husbands, will do it to please him or any of a myriad of reasons. I also read a paper that explains that cuckolding is the first step in establishing a World Gynarchy. Subdue your husbands and take control kind of stuff. Scary.
If cuckolding is for you, go get it! Just remember to love yourself and others. If you guys truly love each other, there is no wrong way to express it.
Quantum Cogitation 