Good Old Dr Tim has come to your rescue and jotted down some ideas for 2011. Give them a shot…
Resolutions for the New Year:
1. Enjoy myself more.
How can I enjoy myself more? Well, as the old song says, “Masturbation can be fun!” Really, if you are single, partnered or married a little bit of self-love is a wonderful thing. After all, how can you direct your lover to your most sensitive erogenous zones if you don’t know where they are located? Let your hands roam your body, do it in front of the mirror, with your eyes closed however you like, but leave no inch of skin untouched. Discover what a light touch vs a heavy touch does for you. Ah, the things you will discover! While you are at it, get a nude full body massage. Personally, my favorite bits of a full body massage are my head and my feet. Who knew?
2. Enjoy others more.
Take the time to pay very close attention to your partner and loved ones. Just like you, there are probably things they would enjoy if they knew about them. Give them a slow sensuous massage and see where it leads. Pay attention to those out-of-the-way spots and build up the sensations. Tease, tease, tease, tease some more, then taste. Unbelievable! They go nuts!
3. Try new things.
Buy lots and lots of sex toys sold by Doc Johnson! Do it! (Remember? I work there. ‘Nuff said.) I have it on excellent authority that the Pocket Rocket is magic! (I use one too…)
Seriously, try new things. Share a book, video, sex toy catalog (hint, hint) with your lover. Talk openly and as honestly as possible about new adventures. Back door? Yours or hers? Check out my archives. There is an excellent article about strap-ons (https://quantumcogitation.com/2008/08/29/strap-it-on/), anal sex (https://quantumcogitation.com/2010/04/30/interesting-question-caution-naughtiness-ahead/), the clitoris (https://quantumcogitation.com/2008/10/15/the-amazing-clitoris/), premature ejaculation (https://quantumcogitation.com/2008/12/22/premature-ejaculation-what-too-soon/) and more!
4. Open yourself to love and forgiveness.
And start with yourself. Nobody is rougher on me than I am. My dear, dear friend Taylor opened my eyes though. Once I forgave myself for my shortcomings and began to like myself better, well everything changed. My eating habits got better, I slept better, I exercise more, weight is falling off of me too. That woman probably saved my life. Love you! So scoff if you like, but it really can help. And when you are open to love, you are open for business. A good positive vibe is very sexy and draws people into your circle. Several of them would probably love to sleep with you too! Saddle up!
5. Talk to someone.
It is a wonderful thing to be open up and express yourself without fear of recrimination. Freedom never tasted so good. You are not alone in your thoughts. Hopefully your partners can do this with you. If not, do you have a friend with whom you can discuss anything? A therapist? Or an unshockable group of warm caring folks? (Check out my Blogroll. One of the world’s best is there. I’m looking at you Dr. Suzy!)
6. Summing up.
To quote a fictional character from a book, when asked to explain the universe he said, “It’s a funny old world.”
So relax, open up, enjoy yourself more and you will see that you didn’t really have to change much at all. 2011 looks like it is going to be another wild ride. So buckle up, grab some condoms, sex toys from Doc Johnson and full speed ahead!
And if you don’t find your favorite fetish discussed or have a question, write to me! We can also go into greater detail about older posts. I’ll answer your question and will probably dedicate a post to it. My email address is: drtim@quantumcogitation.com
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